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I Fall In Love At Least Twice A Day

Lately I’ve had a quote stuck in my head. I don’t know where it come from, and I can’t recall the first time I heard it, but it kept cropping up into my head throughout the day. The original quote is “I hate that I fall in love at least twice a day but never fall out of love”, but it is commonly shortened to “I fall in love at least twice a day”, and that’s what’s been sticking with me. Why? I think mostly because it’s true about me. I do fall in love at least twice a day. With people, things, ideas, anything really, but I am constantly falling in love with something. But you know what? I think it’s just fine. Because if I am constantly falling in love with something that just means I’m exactly where I should be in life right now. It also means that I’m surrounded by the people and the things I need, and I’m enjoying where I am and what I’ve got. By falling in love at least twice a day, I slowly fall deeper into love with the life that I’m living. And that’s exactly where I want to be. So if falling in love at least twice a day is wrong, then I don’t need to be right.

Realistic Resolutions

Happy 2015! Everyone loves ringing in the New Year with resolutions for the year ahead. However, most of the time, we fail to keep those resolutions and end up setting the same goals for the following year. Here’s a little help on making realistic, attainable resolutions for the year ahead.

  • Instead of saying “I’ll lose 10lbs”, say “I’ll get fit”. So many people love to think about all of the weight they’re going to lose throughout the next year, but by February they get off track and get discouraged and end up just giving up. Instead of setting an actual weight goal, just strive to be fit and healthy. This is a much more achievable goal, plus you’ll be less likely to get discouraged if you have an off day or a moment of weakness involving sweets.
  • Instead of saying “I’m only going to eat healthy foods”, say “I’ll eat healthier”. Only eating healthy foods is not at all realistic. It’ll only result in you being unhappy as you deny yourself of the foods you love. Instead, just try to maintain good portion control, and eat everything in moderation. Try to have at least one fruit and one vegetable a day, and stay away from processed foods when you can. Before you know it you may even find a new favorite food!
  • Instead of saying “I’ll go to the gym 5 days a week”, say “I’ll go to the gym more often and try new types of workouts”. Telling yourself that you have to be at the gym a certain number of days or hours of the week is a surefire way to give up on a goal. Life gets in the way and we get busy at times, so instead of being discouraged by a busy schedule, look at is as an opportunity to try new things. If you can’t go to the gym at your regular time, try a workout class later in the day that may fit your schedule better. Or, if you can’t get to the gym at all, try a new walking route around your city or a new hiking trail with a friend. At the end of the day, all the matters is that you did something.
  • Tell yourself that you’ll try something new every week. This is a great goal because it can mean so many things. “Something new” could be anything from reading a new book to trying to cook a new dish to trying a new restaurant with your friends. It could mean trying something very simple, so it’s a great goal to help you slowly step outside of your comfort zone and try new things.

At the end of the day, setting a resolution or two is all about you and what you want to achieve in the following year. For me, this means cooking more, reading more, and writing down all of my ideas so that hopefully I don’t forget so many of them. My dad, on the other hand, likes to take a different approach. For as long as I can remember, he hasn’t set a New Year’s Resolution. Why? He says you don’t want to mess with perfection.

Top 10 Reasons Its Totally Okay To Be Single Right Now

When all your friends are out with their SO’s and discussing their holidays plans with your around, you might start to feel a little bit down on yourself for being single. But being single isn’t really so bad, and here’s why:

1. You’re free to do what you want, when you want to. You don’t have to try to cram someone else’s family dinner (that you don’t really want to go to anyway) into your already short break. Instead, you can hang out with your friends, your family, or even your cats (like me!). Or maybe you just want some me time to catch up on your favorite Netflix series. Whatever the case may be, you’re not obligated to do anything you don’t want to, so enjoy it.

2. You don’t have to worry about buying extra Christmas gifts for them or their family. We’re young, and our bank accounts are tight. Being single means that I don’t have to worry about how much I’m spending on gifts, how much a SO might be spending, and how much neither of us can afford to be spending any money anyway.

3. You’re free to travel. Planning a Spring Break trip with your roommate or best friend? Being single means that you can call for a “girls only” week and really get to spend time with the people you may not get to see as often as you use to. Or maybe you just want to skip town for the weekend to visit an out of state friend. Bonus: you don’t even have to bring souvenirs home to anyone. Wherever you want to go, go.

4. You can focus on you. College especially is a time to figure yourself out. Figuring out your career goals, life goals, and personality can already be tricky enough. Adding someone else into the mix can just complicate thing. So instead, focus on yourself. And once you’ve found yourself, it will be easier to find a significant other later down the road.

5. You can spend more quality time with your family. It’s great to be able to spend time with your family and really get to know them. I personally love hearing stories about my grandparents as children or about when my parents started dating. Plus, now that you’re older, they’ll tell you all the funny “I’ll tell you when you’re older” stories that they use to hide from you!

6. You can wear whatever you want. Realistically, you should never change your appearance just because your SO doesn’t like what you wear or how you do your hair. When you’re single, you can try new styles and you don’t need to worry about impressing anyone but yourself. This also means you can spend your entire weekend in sweats and fuzzy socks if you so choose, and absolutely no one will judge you.

7. You don’t have to share your food. Going out to eat is fun and its great to be able to try new things. But chances are, when you have a SO, they’re going to want to try your dish, too. Personally, I’d rather have leftovers than share with someone, so being single at a restaurant works totally in my favor.

8. You don’t have to clean up after anyone but yourself. In my experiences, my apartment always looked like a warzone when my SO would come to visit. Why? Guys are messy. And they don’t care. Being single means my apartment stays just the way I like it: clean.

9. You don’t have the additional stress that relationships can bring. Finals, jobs, schedules, and money are all stressful when you’re young and working your way through school. Petty scuffs with a SO can add to the stress and distract you from what really needs to get done. When you’re single, that extra stress isn’t even a factor.

10. You get to be selfish, but in a good way. Just got news that you got the job interview you’ve been preparing for all semester? Reward yourself! Celebrate, go out with friends, buy yourself a new outfit, and don’t feel bad about it. You can reward yourself for doing well and celebrate just the way you want to. Enjoy it.

At the end of the day, being single or being in a relationship is just fine. As long as you make yourself happy first, no one should judge you for your relationship status. But if you’re only in a relationship so that you have someone to cuddle with when you’re cold, just remember: that’s why they make electric blankets.

Impromptu Halloween

Sometimes life knocks you down. And sometimes, life hits you square in the jaw. This week has been one of those weeks, and there’s no doubt about it. Things have gone wrong, and things have gotten worse, and in the end things just blew up. But at the end of the day, those things were all out of my control and the best thing for me to do is make the best of them. Crying about them won’t solve anything, and it won’t get me anywhere farther in life. So what did we do instead of crying and wallowing in self pity? We decided to have Impromptu Halloween, obviously. We didn’t want to go out, but we did want to have fun. So we put on our costumes, turned up the music, laughed a lot, and had a good time. And when it was all over and the costumes came off and the pajamas went on, we were all a little bit happier than when we started. Why? Because we didn’t cry and we didn’t allow each other to be sad. Instead, we laughed. And sometimes, most of the time actually, a good laugh is all you need to cure a bad week.

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